Not long ago, she and a friend had a falling out. Mary wracked her brain trying to figure out what happened. It reminded her of stories she heard over the years, where her friend's kids didn't get along with her, and reasons why her marriage broke up and her friend was always the innocent. Something similar had come up for them to be upset with each other. Mary was new to EFT, and was tapping for whatever came up. She started to question herself...."if Elaine can't see how she is creating the issues with her family, and I'm having trouble with mine....then what am I doing that I don't see?" Mary tapped for it a few times, and then let it go.

It's so interesting how EFT opens the door to answers. One day Mary remembered how angry she was when a counselor had told her that even tho she meant well, that sometimes others saw her help as judgement and criticizing. "How could that be?" she thought, "I'm just trying to help?".....it wasn't too long after that, on "Desperate Housewives", that Lynette's husband, Tom, was opening a pizza restaurant and couldn't get the neighbors to ok a liquor license, so she jumped in and brought the neighbors around. Instead of being grateful, Tom told her, in effect, "Once again, Lynette to the rescue, and I'm the loser". Mary was stunned. She never looked at it that way; she never meant it that way. But now she could see the difference....and she had to admit that when people tried to help her that she too, saw it as criticism. She tapped on that, "Even tho I mean well and sometimes it's perceived as criticism..."; happy that the Universe had provided the answer.

Even better, after a period of time, people started thanking her for her help. They truly appreciated her being in their lives and jumping in and not being passive. Somehow, the tapping had also changed the perception! She was accepted for her intent.